A long time ago, I was young, stupid and sick of driving my beat up car. So I got a bank loan for more that it would have cost me to buy a house plot and bought a flashy red sports car. Two months later I caught the eye of a beautiful woman, one year later we were married but before I knew it, we were divorced.
A while later, after selling my successful business, I once again bought a red sports car. This time, there was no bank loan, but it did have a really cool automatic folding roof. Two months later I caught the eye of a beautiful woman, one year later we were married but before I knew it, we were divorced. No, there’s no echo in here.
The problem was neither of these women met and married the real me. Though I fooled even myself, the sports car driving, designer clothes wearing, champagne drinking, ambition fuelled, successful businessman wasn’t the real me. The real me, unintentionally hidden at those critical moments of my life, craved (and still craves) simplicity, spiritual growth, financial independence and a life with purpose.
On the surface it’s easy to see that if you’re pretending (perhaps even subconsciously) that you’re someone you’re not, then anyone attracted to you is not really attracted to you but to the person you’re pretending to be. If the real you ever emerges, then chances are, that person isn’t going to be attracted to you anymore, especially if the real you is very different from the pretend you. If you want someone to be attracted to the real you, then you have to be courageous and honest enough (especially to yourself) to reveal the real you. And herein lies the challenge. Knowing and revealing the real you may sound very simple, but I think it can be one of the most difficult things for a person to do.
So, for now, that is part of my journey, to discover and reveal the real me. The me who is defined not by my car but by my faith, judged not but the cut of my clothes but by the cut of my character. As I don’t even own a car now, I can’t imagine anyone being attracted to me for my ride. But then again I do own a really nice pair of minimalist running shoes.